Hate my negative outlook on life  I hate my negative outlook on life. I know that life isn't all good but I seem to focus on the bad!

I feel im destined for misery regardless of what i do.  Hi,
I grew up in a beautiful family with good parents and 5 other brothers and sisters. My father passed away when i was 16 yrs old (im now 29 female)...

Family Negativity  I need help. My sister is killing me. I love her to death, but I can't take it anymore.

My sister has had more than her share of bad luck and I mean ...

Missing someone terribly?  Hi! I'm a 21-year-old girl missing a part of my past terribly. I need to know what to do when you miss someone unbelievably but they just won't talk to ...

i feel i am loosing myself  hi i am an indian. i love a guy and we want to get married but our parents are strongly aganinst our relationship. They have even verbally abused each ...

in law confusion  Hello, My name is Kasey and I am 61 years old. I have a problem with my son's wife, she is a very negative person. She has some health issues and has no ...

self-esteem  I moved out from home about 10 months ago to start college. Everything is going great.. my profs were awesome...my community leader were very welcoming ...

Who am I? Finding out that my father is not my biological father.  In 1992 after having my first child, my Mother decides to tell me that my Dad is not my biological father. I was 24 years old and completely devastated....

gossip  i am playing table tennnis and before every competition i am afraid that i will lose and people would laugh/talk bad things etc about that. I am afraid ...

Putting Myself Down!/why do I always blame myself????????  If I had to make a list of the things I could feel good about myself for that list would be very slim. If I were to make a list of the bad things about ...

Priorities in life  I will be presenting to a Ladies Bible Class this topic.
This is a most diverse group: retired college professor grandmothers to single mothers with only ...

I just don't feel like I ever fit in  I am so sick of feeling like the odd person out ALL the time. Ever since I was little I just never felt like I fit in and always felt like the odd man/...

i m soo angry person  hi.....
i have a 2 years and 7 months baby. Sometimes I am so angry with him and even with my husband. Sometime I feel so sorry for them and feel to hurt ...

MENTAL NUTTER  I am so angry. I've had medication, I've seen shrink after shrink from the nhs even paid privately, none of it works.

i get angry every day over nothing ...

why am i angry?  i am always angry!!! i have been angry since i was a little girl. i am always mad. i get mad over every thing! i have seen doctor over doctor, and weirdo ...

How do I become more successful in product design?  Last year I finished my degree in Product Design which I really enjoyed doing. My current job has a bid to do with design but not to a large extent. My ...

Relationship with grown sons  I was a good mother and yet my grown sons, (married with children)really don't have much to say to me. One regards his aunt with great affection and I ...

Hate My Job - Mid Life in my 30's  I hate my job. I feel angry and depressed all the time.

I bring home my anger. My poor family. I want to quit my job and find something new. But with ...

Letting Go of Unhealthy Friendships  I'm 26, newly married, and I try to avoid confrontation at all costs.

Over the years, I have had a negative and rocky friendship with a girl that started ...

angry all the time  I don't understand angry. My husband is always angry. He is angry at me for everything. My kids notice it.

He is sweet and bending backwards for his ...

My kid's attention  Hi,
I have a 18 month toddler who spends a lot time with his father because I am the one who is working. I realize that my son does not pay me enough ...

Re article on needing others' approval  I have read many of the articles on this website and they are all very inspiring.

However, a lot of the ideas are very centered on the self, like we ...

Vicious circles and insecurity  I seem to be in a vicious circle of becoming close to people with big personalities, only to feel, after time, swamped by those personalities and inclined ...

Outsider's Fear, Anger, Depression  There's a war going on... inside me.
I was at a personal development weekend in February in the US, and as was part of the program, I sat in tears opposite ...

confused when verbally abused  HI my name is Anna and this evening I was looking for a way of dealing with some of my "problems" when I came across your website which I find very positive ...

smoking-be-positive-instead  to cope with life do positive things because smoking confuses ya brain cells.Our bodies r controlled by the brain coordination.Smoking marijuana holds ...

logical thinking?  I lack self-confidence because I do dumb things sometimes. I don't reason or think logically and I have poor problem solving skills. How can I deal with ...

negativity from people regarding weight  How do people deal with negative people who put others down regarding weight? The experience of say a female"friend" who unfairly puts you down or the ...

New Job already neg., controlling co-worker.  They are all over, seems I fall into their lap. My old job was not happy I just left. Being an agency , I had to keep calling for work, when my patient ...

When do I stop trying?  I am a people pleaser , I try to make my bosses happy, I try to follow all their rules . I take all their negatives & put downs, sometimes as an individual ...

Forgiving myself for cheating  I recently cheated on my on again off again girlfriend of 5 years. The last 6 months or more have been so emotionally charged. Very negative environment ...

Despair  I feel like my life is out of control. I feel heavy and completely unmotivated to perform even the simplest of tasks. I am very overweight and do want ...

Frustration/Confusion From Losing a Job  My job of twelve years was suddenly eliminated as it was no longer needed. Because of my length of service, relationships with co-workers and senior position,...

Anger  I'm Shal from India. Always anger overpowered me till date. I try to get into meditation but unable to concentrate but still a bit found that i was not ...

Mom takes stand with daughters   I have two adult daughters 37&40. For 25 years they have been fighting with each other and venting to me. I always felt as a mother I had to listen. They ...

Perplexed about Coworkers  I have a problem. It has been bothering me for quite some time. It all started with a corporate takeover of the company that I work for. With the takeover,...

Who Am I?  I remember while taking a Psychology class, this was the main question through the entire term. We were suppose to write a paper on this question of "Who ...

what desicion should i take  Dear sarija,

i am really confused of my future. i m very much dippressed.kindly help me to take better decision in my life

Few years back in my school ...

Building yourself up by putting others down  People who are approval seekers seem to be the ones who will make others look bad to make themselves look better. What really is their motivation here?...

Jobless  Hi

I am 35 and did a degree which I finished in 2007. I have not been able to find a job in the field that I have studied and have been doing on and ...

turning within to not go without  hello

for the past week I have felt I wanted to disappear.I am tired spiritually.tired of pushing,pulling,waiting,hoping...I feel I am stood on top ...

Relationships with in-laws and sister-in-laws  In the past, I have only dated men that have sisters or a mix of sisters and brothers. I have had no problem getting along with my boyfriend's parents ...

can't see grandkids related to religion  I have been in my grandkids life activity for 11 years, their mom( my ex daughter in law) and I have had a good working relationship. She started attending ...

Anger/ frustration  (not going to bore you with every details, but here's a bit of what's bothering me)

My father and I have never really bonded. Ever since I was a child,...

Born a full century out of time  Having serious issues dealing with anything happening outside my front door. I can't cope with the way people are and the way things are. Everything sends ...

What do I want  After years of being in bad relationships and being very submisive, I met the right guy. He taught me to be confident, made me aware of my beauty (inner ...

group talking   when i need to talk before a group of a few people i always suddenly get scared and stressed or excited about what im gonna say (if it will be right/wrong ...

are those signs of jelaousy?  2 years ago my husbands friend got married. His wife and I very soon become close friends. I really like her,better say adore her, she is so smart,self ...

No solution  I'm 40 male.Working to look after my family for last 23yrs,12hrs a day.
I have an elder sister of 47yrs with a small facial defect which thru the years ...

Be proud of yourself  Hello
We have created this website where you can enter little comments about something that made you proud. If you find it interesting, please let us ...

cheating and insecure  Hi there,

I just started a relationship with a girl I've been seeing for a few months, she's lovely and things are going well, but I can feel my questioning ...

frustration  how do you breakthrough frustration...do you use it as leverage to make dramatic changes?


Visitor's Comments
Date: August 25, 2008
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Different Standards and Rules for Myself and Others  I want to know why I have such impossibly hard standards for myself and why I have such compassionate standards for other people.

For example, I have ...