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Hate My Job - Mid Life in my 30's

I hate my job. I feel angry and depressed all the time.

I bring home my anger. My poor family. I want to quit my job and find something new. But with the lack of jobs out there I stay.

Do I quit my job or start fresh?
Do I stay and deal with the lack of support and more duties that I have come my way?

Life is too short and I dont want to feel this way.

Why does angry make me want to cry and make me feel helpless?
Guilt always follows.

Am I the only one that feels this way?

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May 01, 2009

Take back control of your life
by: Catherine, www.Life-With-Confidence.com

Hi Anonymous,

Here's a couple of quick suggestions for you.

Why do you hate your job so much? Is it because you feel you don't have enough support and are doing too much work? If that changed, would you then love your job?

If that's all that's causing you to dislike your job, are there things you can do? Can you talk to your boss about getting some help, can you figure out more efficient ways to do things, if most of your work is in one area is there a way to streamline it, etc. Can you think of possible solutions to the problems besides hiring more staff. Think about the things you can do. Some of your frustration may be coming from the fact that you feel like there's nothing you can do. There's lots you can do. Focus on what you want and how you can achieve that.

If you really don't like your company, have you updated your resume? Are you asking people if they've heard of anything, are you keeping your eyes open? You just need one job not hundreds. If you really want another job, start looking and getting ready for it. Do you need to brush up your interview skills? Do you need to update any skills to get the job you really want?

As you said, Life is too short to be in a job you hate so figure out what it is you really want and start working towards it. You might find that as you change your perspective towards your current job that you don't hate it as much.

Could you even apply to a different area in the company you work in?

So, take back control of your life. Once you start to take action then you'll stop feeling helpless. You'll know there's lots you can do to change things. So, start with figuring out what it is you really want. You could even start with what do you like about your current job? Is that the type of work you want to continue to do? Or do you want to try a different career altogether? Ignore the obstacles and just keep moving forwards.

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Hi Anonymous, Here's a couple of quick suggestions for you. Why do you hate your job so much? Is it because you feel you don't have enough support and are doing too much work? If that changed, would you then love your job? If that's all that's causing you to dislike your job, are there things you can do? Can you talk to your boss about getting some help, can you figure out more efficient ways to do things, if most of your work is in one area is there a way to streamline it, etc. Can you think of possible solutions to the problems besides hiring more staff. Think about the things you can do. Some of your frustration may be coming from the fact that you feel like there's nothing you can do. There's lots you can do. Focus on what you want and how you can achieve that. If you really don't like your company, have you updated your resume? Are you asking people if they've heard of anything, are you keeping your eyes open? You just need one job not hundreds. If you really want another job, start looking and getting ready for it. Do you need to brush up your interview skills? Do you need to update any skills to get the job you really want? As you said, Life is too short to be in a job you hate so figure out what it is you really want and start working towards it. You might find that as you change your perspective towards your current job that you don't hate it as much. Could you even apply to a different area in the company you work in? So, take back control of your life. Once you start to take action then you'll stop feeling helpless. You'll know there's lots you can do to change things. So, start with figuring out what it is you really want. You could even start with what do you like about your current job? Is that the type of work you want to continue to do? Or do you want to try a different career altogether? Ignore the obstacles and just keep moving forwards.

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Jun 04, 2009

At least you have a family
by: Anonymous

I have no one to go home to after my day at a job I hate. I hate the people I work with. I hate my life.

Jun 04, 2009

Time to change things
by: Catherine

Hi anonymous,

Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time right now.

I can actually relate to what you're saying because I went through a long phase where I could have written the exact same thing.

I know it may be hard to believe right now, but you do have a lot of power to change your life.

Maybe start with listening to what you're telling yourself. Are you always seeing the negative in everything? Do you feel defeated before you even start something? Do you talk yourself out of doing something that you want to do? Do you push people away if they try to talk to you? What are your thoughts focusing on most of the time?

You control your thoughts, they don't control you. That's an important first step. Quite likely you haven't been paying attention to what you're thinking about all the time. Just listen to yourself.

Listen to those thoughts and start to cancel the negative ones out. It sounds like you're getting stuck thinking about what you don't want too (you don't want to be alone, you don't want to work where you are, you don't want to work with your co-workers). Turn it around and start to think about what do you want. Then, how would you get it?

Also, think about where the main source of your anger and feeling down comes from. Is it because you are alone? Or is it because you're not happy with your job and career choice? Or are you still angry at some event from the past? It's important to figure that out because often an unhappiness in one area spills over to all areas of your life. So, you may realize that things aren't so bad at work for example and that you're just letting your feelings of loneliness spill over into that area.

Anyway, you can change things. Start with listening to your thoughts though. What are you telling yourself all the time?

There's lots of people who would love love to help you to turn things around. People do care about you.

It's actually a good first step that you've stated that you hate your life. Now, you know what you don't want anymore. Let's turn things around for you.

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Jun 04, 2009
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Hi anonymous, Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time right now. I can actually relate to what you're saying because I went through a long phase where I could have written the exact same thing. I know it may be hard to believe right now, but you do have a lot of power to change your life. Maybe start with listening to what you're telling yourself. Are you always seeing the negative in everything? Do you feel defeated before you even start something? Do you talk yourself out of doing something that you want to do? Do you push people away if they try to talk to you? What are your thoughts focusing on most of the time? You control your thoughts, they don't control you. That's an important first step. Quite likely you haven't been paying attention to what you're thinking about all the time. Just listen to yourself. Listen to those thoughts and start to cancel the negative ones out. It sounds like you're getting stuck thinking about what you don't want too (you don't want to be alone, you don't want to work where you are, you don't want to work with your co-workers). Turn it around and start to think about what do you want. Then, how would you get it? Also, think about where the main source of your anger and feeling down comes from. Is it because you are alone? Or is it because you're not happy with your job and career choice? Or are you still angry at some event from the past? It's important to figure that out because often an unhappiness in one area spills over to all areas of your life. So, you may realize that things aren't so bad at work for example and that you're just letting your feelings of loneliness spill over into that area. Anyway, you can change things. Start with listening to your thoughts though. What are you telling yourself all the time? There's lots of people who would love love to help you to turn things around. People do care about you. It's actually a good first step that you've stated that you hate your life. Now, you know what you don't want anymore. Let's turn things around for you.

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Jul 04, 2009

me too
by: home sick

i feel you i got a promotion and its just horrible i bust my behind , get there early, stay late and still get no respect, i want to look for a new job but the job market is scarce right now to say the leasr , any suggestions?

Jul 08, 2009

what don't you like
by: Catherine, www.Life-With-Confidence.com

Hi Home Sick,

That's too bad that your promotion didn't turn out like you hoped. What is it you don't like the most? Is it the fact that you feel like you're not respected? Or is it the fact that you're working long hours? So, once you know what you really dislike about it, can you change that aspect of it? For example, why are you working such long hours? Are there things you could do to change that? Think about what would make the job great for you. What would it look like and what would you be doing that would make it different. Lots of times by really thinking about that will actually allow you to see what action you can take to make the changes you want. You move towards what you want instead of feeling trapped.

And, if you really can't change it and you really do want to leave, then start looking for another job. Telling yourself that the job market is scarce right now is limiting yourself before you even start. You don't need a hundred jobs, you just need one. Think about what kind of job you would like. Which companies do you think would be good to work for? But, take action. Update your resume, research the various companies, ask around and see if you know anyone who knows someone over there, take a look at their web sites, see if they are hiring, maybe contact a job hunter company and see if they have anything, or create a proposal for a company and say what you have to offer and why you'd be the perfect fit for them. Yes, the job market has changed. It doesn't mean there aren't any jobs. It means you have to be more resourceful. Companies are being more choosy who they hire. Show them why you're a good fit and that you're not just waiting for them to come to you.

There's lots you can do. You just have to decide what it is you really want and then go after it.

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Hi Home Sick, That's too bad that your promotion didn't turn out like you hoped. What is it you don't like the most? Is it the fact that you feel like you're not respected? Or is it the fact that you're working long hours? So, once you know what you really dislike about it, can you change that aspect of it? For example, why are you working such long hours? Are there things you could do to change that? Think about what would make the job great for you. What would it look like and what would you be doing that would make it different. Lots of times by really thinking about that will actually allow you to see what action you can take to make the changes you want. You move towards what you want instead of feeling trapped. And, if you really can't change it and you really do want to leave, then start looking for another job. Telling yourself that the job market is scarce right now is limiting yourself before you even start. You don't need a hundred jobs, you just need one. Think about what kind of job you would like. Which companies do you think would be good to work for? But, take action. Update your resume, research the various companies, ask around and see if you know anyone who knows someone over there, take a look at their web sites, see if they are hiring, maybe contact a job hunter company and see if they have anything, or create a proposal for a company and say what you have to offer and why you'd be the perfect fit for them. Yes, the job market has changed. It doesn't mean there aren't any jobs. It means you have to be more resourceful. Companies are being more choosy who they hire. Show them why you're a good fit and that you're not just waiting for them to come to you. There's lots you can do. You just have to decide what it is you really want and then go after it.

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Aug 18, 2009

30 is heavy!
by: Anonymous

Im turning 30 on 25th of august. wow 30 never thought i would reach my 30. Damn 30 years! full of regret full of mistakes. sometimes i want to end it all, so many people are suffering my family and even my wife. I fee i dont belong to any particular living thing in this world. I couldnt even make my wife be proud of me. first my parents now is my wife i guess im such a big looser really! true love..that is what im looking for. i want to be hug, even my parents never hugged me. i always smile i always seems to be a jolly happy person but deep inside damn! im not. im just a big sorry looser waiting to explode. damn life 30 is indeed heavy!

Sep 08, 2009

Wake up and Change
by: Mawardi

Hi anonymous,

As mentioned by Catherine, you have to take back control of your life. Speaking from experience, I once went through what you are going through now. I was stuck in my job for 7 years with no hope of getting out of it. Determination kept me going, and some time in 2007 I got a better job from a MNC in Penang, Malaysia. A couple of years later (some time mid of March this year),I had to deal with another blow in my life when I was laid off by the company. I felt distressed, angry, frustrated and all sorts of negative feelings. At the end I realized that these were heading me nowhere. I picked up my strength and moved on to find another job. I got it within a month after my retrenchment. My point is, it requires a lot of positive thinking, persistence and effort for one to solve his issues. In no time this will pay off. If I can do it, so can you Anonymous. Believe in yourself and the whole world is with you.

Apr 05, 2010

can relate
by: Anonymous

I am in the same boat as everyone here. Hate job, despise the people that I have to work with every day. It affects my home life as well. When I come home I should be able to leave all the shit behind but it consumes me. Like everyone has said, jobs are scarce. There is only so much a person can take. People can be so cruel in the workforce. I need and want out. I am glad I found this site so that I can vent!!!

May 13, 2010

JOB SUCKS
by: Anonymous

My company sucks to work for. They treat people like idiots and don't respect us. The people that have been there the longest get looked over for a raise. This guy that just started got a raise. I've been waiting on my raise for 2 years. I wish they would fire me so that i could collect un employment and go back to school. I get mad at my wife all the time because i feel that i can't control life. So i take it out on her. I am back in college and trying to pursue a career in something different but it will be 2 years till i graduate. UGHHH!!!!!!!!!!

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