One of the most common questions I get in regards to building self-confidence is "How do I stop feeling worthless?"
And, the answer is really shockingly simple. Yet, if you google the question, you’ll find hundreds of pages with dozens of different suggestions. There’s really one main thing you need to do to feel valuable and feel a sense of worth. Actually, it doesn’t matter what else you do, if you don’t take this one step, you will always feel completely worthless.
Yes, one decision you make is going to be more important than all the others. You MUST make this decision.
DECIDE to feel worthwhile.
Make the decision that you have value and worth.
Do it right now. Try it out. Say it with me, “I’m worthy”. Or if it resonates more with you, choose, “I have value”, “I’m important”.
Do you see how empowering this one little sentence is? There’s no working through things or letting things go at this precise moment. It’s simply a decision you make. I’m worthy.
Don’t let the simpleness of this advice make you doubt the power of it.
The key piece to understand here is that this is not an affirmation or mantra that you tell yourself blankly throughout the day knowing deep down inside that you don’t believe it.
You could tell yourself, “I’m going to the store, I’m going to the store” all day long knowing deep down inside that you’re tired and that you’re going to put it off and go next week. Saying it over and over to yourself won’t make you go to the store. You won’t go to the store until you DECIDE to go to the store. Once you make that decision then you put on your shoes and your jacket, look for your keys, and go to the store. You made the decision so you do it. That’s the difference between an affirmation and making a decision.
Think about all the other things you’ve achieved in your life. What was the one thing you had to do in order to move ahead with your goal? You had to make the decision to do it. Without making the decision, it always remains a wish or something to do in the future.
Make the decision. It’s as simple as that.
Try it out for the next few days. Keep making the decision throughout the day. “I’m worthy”.
See how it changes all your other decisions when you decide for yourself that you have value.
No one else can make this decision for you.
This will be the most important decision you ever make for yourself.
Don’t waste another moment, try it out now. Make the decision. I’m worthy.
Yes, you are.
Catherine Pratt, www.Life-With-Confidence, @LWConf
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