Husband in touch with ex girlfriend long distance
My husband of 16 years has stayed in touch with a "friend" from 20 plus years ago. We have two incredible sons and as a family have a great life. We travel and live in a beautiful home and have fun! Our marriage had been very difficult up to over two years ago when we thought it was over and but a good friend of my husband insisted that we go away together which we did and basically renewed our marriage. (of course there's more to the story but it truly has been great). Things have been great since with the exception of this "friend" that pops into my husband's life on occasion. She's married with children of her own. They had a relationship when he lived back East but never really a boyfriend/girlfriend; more like a "friend with benefit". He did cheat on his first wife (of less than a year)with this friend. He is still on good terms with his ex-wife with whom I have no problem with.
This FWB (friend with benefit) will text my husband things with strong sexual inuendos and he will respond. Sometimes they are not in touch for several months. It's almost always when he and I aren't very active in the sex arena when she seems to "show up". He has not been back east for a few years so I know he hasn't seen her.
He is planning a trip back east very soon (we are on the west coast) and he "accidently" left his computer browser open so I looked at his email. I found in his "sent" messages where they are planning to meet for breakfast the morning after he arrives. She has made plans to work locally near his hotel that day as well as not be in until the afternoon. I know that the rest of his short stay he is busy with other things.
My husband is very powerful in business and his ideas. I know that if I approach him with this information, he will make me the wrong one somehow.
I love him and I love my life. This has made me feel very sad and depressed. I am looking at my options: to speak with him about it where it could really blow up or to trust my husband that he won't follow through. His big thing is trust and telling the truth. I am very conflicted.