experience left me low in self belief
Ten years ago I had a very destructive relationship with a guy who was extremely controlling and who spent every day asking me what thoughts I'd had about other men throughout the day. He would go over and over what I'd done and who I'd seen every day and doubt me and not believe me so much that in the end I lost all of my confidence and lost all sense of what I actually did think!
He broke me right down and I lost all my confidence in how I feel about guys.
I'm really confident in other parts of my life, sport, friendships and work but in the relationships with guys area I lack confidence and when a guy does come into the picture whether it's just a date or interest in me I get all confused and don't have confidence in myself to know how I feel.
I have recently dealt with a situation for the first time where I have made myself go on a date and all the way through made myself be confident in what I think and that it was ok to not feel that way about him. I feel a lot of pressure in finding a guy and others comment that I should give people more of a chance. This is more of an issue as I've been single ever since my ex boyfriend, I have been on dates etc but not liked anyone and always got myself into very unhappy situations with people I didn't want to so this makes me even more upset!
I also worry that I am unable to meet a nice guy because I lack confidence. I can see that I need to build my confidence in accepting and knowing how I feel about a guy when in a new situation but wondered if you have any tips on how to build this confidence?
Many thanks anom