There can be times in your life when you suddenly feel sad or unhappy or bored or even lost and you don't know why.
On the surface, your life might seem great. You have a job, a nice place to live, friends and family. So, what's wrong? Why aren't you happy?
Well, the most common reason why is because you don't have a purpose in your life. We're not talking "Life Purpose" as in that big, scary concept of knowing from birth that you were meant to devote your entire life to saving the whales or something like that. No, it's much more simple than that.
Having a purpose in your life simply means working towards something you want to achieve. It could be learning a new language, visiting somewhere you've never been before, finding a new place to live, figuring out how to earn more money, improving your health, or even planning to become a parent. The key criteria is that it's something that's important to you and something you want to accomplish.
Without a purpose to your life, you will drift through life always feeling unsettled.
If you answer "No" to any of these questions, then you need to find a sense of purpose in your life which is as simple as coming up with a positive goal for yourself.
If you've decided that yes, you've lost your sense of purpose and that's why you feel unsettled, figuring out what you want to start focusing on is just the first step. Along with deciding on a purpose, the other thing you need to do is to make sure you're constantly making gains towards your goal and you're able to clearly see that progress. Having a purpose won't work to cure you from feeling sad or unhappy if your goal is too general or too vague or if there's no way to tell if you're making positive steps towards it.
For example, if you made your purpose to "be a good friend", what does that mean to you? What would you do to show that? What results would you expect? How would you know if you were successful or not?
Your goal needs to be specific like, "I'll call (or email or visit) my friend at least once a week so we don't drift apart." Find a way to be specific about your purpose and also provide a time frame of when you hope to achieve the goal or how often you'll work on the goal (phone call once a week). It's also helpful to include the "why" behind your purpose, "so we don't drift apart".
Your purpose also needs to be realistic. Don't set yourself up for failure by planning something like, "I'll run a marathon this weekend even though I've never run a mile in my life." It's good to challenge yourself but make sure it's something you can achieve if you apply yourself.
Another tip when making your purpose is to make it something you have control over. Something like, "I'm going to win the lottery next week" also sets you up for failure because you have no power to influence that outcome.
An interesting point he makes in his book is that people often think that they'll be happy once they achieve their goal. They feel that happiness won't be theirs until they're married, or have that new job, or have gotten the degree they want. He says that it's actually not true because once they accomplish the goal, the happiness doesn't last long because people are hardwired to always want more. "Remember that you are happy not because of what you already have achieved but from the progress you make towards a desirable goal." He says what really makes you happy is "measurable progress" towards something that inspires you.
It's a different way of thinking about happiness and goals. By looking at it this way you can see that it's important to keep track of your progress and to celebrate your successes along the way. Also, to make sure you always have something you're working towards to give you a sense of purpose and that you don't get lost in just completing day-to-day life activities.
If you're feeling sad, unhappy, or even just blah about life then check and see if the reason is because you've lost your sense of purpose somewhere along the way. Take the time to make a list of all the things you'd like to achieve and then go through the process of seeing which ones inspire you the most and which ones are strong enough of a want for you to commit the time and effort needed to achieve them. Then start planning on how you'll approach your new purpose and watch how dramatically your life will change.
Giving yourself a sense of purpose can truly be life altering.
I'll leave you with one final quote to consider:
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