The Game of Opposites – How to Instantly Deal With Frustration
by Catherine Pratt
“I hate my job. You’re so lucky you’re not there anymore.”
I was having lunch with my friend last week who is also a former co-worker when she suddenly blurted this out.
“Wow, it’s that bad now? Well, let’s play the Game of Opposites then,” I said pulling out a piece of paper.
“I’m trying to deal with a frustration here,” she replied. My friend is actually quite used to me so I think she knew to bear with me while I explained about the Game of Opposites to her.
“You know about the Law of Attraction,” I said. “You get what you put your energy and focus on, whether wanted or unwanted. Well, there is also the Law of Opposites that’s taking place and until you figure it out you will probably stay stuck where you are and you won’t be able to get past the frustration. If you have resistance to certain things in your life, it can make it difficult to get what you really do want and it can even prevent you from moving towards those desires."
I made two columns on the paper like this.
What I Don't Like
I'm Grateful Because
Now, first let me tell you about the Law of Opposites. Here’s a quote from Wes Hopper’s book called “The Astonishing Power of Gratitude” that I think explains it really well,
"Every situation that looks bad has an equal amount of good, if you look for it. Everything that happens just "is". Like two sides of a coin, it has a side that looks 'bad' and it has a side that looks 'good'. You get to choose. Whatever you call it, it becomes for you.
So, in any situation you need to:
“Remind yourself that the universe is friendly to you. There is a virtually infinite supply of everything you need. There is always enough money, customers, time, love, friends, etc so that no situation can leave you without those things for long. You do not absolutely need 'that one', you can move on to the next.
Next, you remind yourself that you get to decide what to call the situation - good or bad. You know the good is there (and, yes, I know, it is sometimes hard to see when you're in the thick of it), but you do know it's there."
In his book, Wes goes on to remind us that it's usually the absolute worst experiences that we go through that eventually end up bringing us the greatest gifts. They teach us valuable lessons and in the end turn out to be really good things. It may take awhile to find the good or the silver lining to the event but it's usually there. You just have to turn it around. You just need to play the Game of Opposites so, back to my diagram.
“You hate your job.” I wrote this down in the first column.
“This can be either good or bad. You get to decide. So, let’s say you choose to see the good in it. What can you come up with?”
“Well, it pays my rent,” She admitted.
“Good,” I said writing that down in the second column. “What else?”
“I’m gaining skills that I could use in a new job.”
“Perfect,” I replied. “Keep going.”
“I now have a better idea of what I do want in a job. Like being flexible in my hours.”
"Awesome. And, don’t forget that if you really liked your job you wouldn’t be motivated to find something else where you’re more challenged and learning more. More along the lines of what you really want to do.”
“You’re right,” she agreed. “I would just stay because it’s comfortable. This is totally encouraging me to find something new.”
We continued brainstorming all the good things about her job until we’d managed to think of about 10 things to add to the list.
Before we had gone through this exercise, my friend had been focused simply on the fact that she hated her job and thought she’d be stuck where she was forever. But, by turning it around, she can see that yes, she’s not satisfied with what she currently has but that’s actually a good thing. It’s at that moment when you’re trying to deal with a frustration that you learn that there is something that you need to improve and then you start to push yourself to grow and become even better. It causes us to learn more about ourselves and gain new insights into the world around us. You know you have the ability to do better and you will. You just need to figure out how and then take action. But, you can only do that when you’re grateful for the situation that brought you to the initial starting point. It changes your whole focus to one of being positive and this opens your mind to new opportunities.
Try it. See what a difference it makes. Write down everything in your life right now that is annoying you or frustrating you or that you don’t like and then play the Game of Opposites. You will most likely find that you are suddenly able to move past those annoyances that were driving you so insane before and actually start using them as stepping stones to achieving what you really do desire.
Bad luck is good luck we haven’t figured out how to use yet.
Charles Burke from Synchronicity Secrets
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