Unhealthy friendships can be very messy...
I am writing for a few reasons but, mainly, because I just don't know what to do.
Here's my situation...I began working at my current job about 2 years ago and became friends with my co-workers. There are 4 of us that became pretty close and sit by each other every day. About 6 months ago, I got promoted over another one of the workers. So...now I'm her supervisor that is also her friend. It gets more complicated. Another one of the co-workers is now dating one of my friends (from a personal circle of friends). The person I supervise and the person that is dating my friend are very close and are pretty negative people that like to gossip...A LOT. (this gossip has even gotten back to my boss) I have addressed both of them individually at completely different times. The last time I discussed something with one of them was a result of a completely rude comment that was made to me. I feel that the discussions go very well and I leave them feeling upbeat and positive just to get "stabbed in the back" per say. I really feel like these two are toxic to me but that I am so entangled between the work and personal connections that I just don't know what to do. Most of all, I fear the comments that are being made to MY friends from my co-worker (who has just recently become friends with the friends I have had for a few years). I don't hate many things, but I hate gossip. Badly. And truly, truly do my best just to steer clear. If anyone has any advice/thoughts/has been through something like this, please let me know.