The other side of the coin
Wow!! the narcissist could very well be so but the victim's perspective that you are describing is not healthy either by blaming how he/she feels entirely on the narcissist!! The victim should identify with his strengths in order to feel confident enough to reject the blame. I think I may have many traits of a narcissist and one thing that I wish for others to do is to shut me up by dismissing me when they don't think that they are responsible for whatever they are blamed for. They can only do that if they get out of the victim mindset and have more confidence in their abilities. Not by finding ways to "learn new strategies and techniques specific to working with them" - 'narcissists'. I did not read your book but read what you wrote on this site and I think its just a recipe for making war not peace!