I googled how to deal with a negative person and this was an article that came up. I'm 29 years old, my mother has abused me mentally and physically my whole life. I recently was blessed by God with a daughter of my own...crazy as it may seem I got pregnant 3 months after trying to kill myself completely overwhelmed and wanting to escape my nightmarish life. I promised myself I would NEVER let my mother be in my daughters life and hurt her the way she hurt me. Due to circumstances and situations I ended up having to eat my words and ask her to move in with her. Of course she let me and now I beg God everynight to please let one of the many jobs I've applied for call me so I can get my own place and have peace once again in my life. I've been playing the part to the tee...I don't try to defend myself, I try to block out her put downs of everyone who isn't in earshot...she talks bad about every single person in turn when they aren't there including me. She is never wrong. She cooks food and forces you to eat just because she is hungry. She takes my daughter out of my arms and claims she's just giving "mommy" a break even tho I didn't ask for one and then I'll catch her telling my daughter to call her "mommy", she'll sing the same songs to her that I do and it's all very sickening to deal with. My daughter is bi-racial and when her and my step dad argue she calls him the "N" word in front of her. I tell her to stop and then she acts like she's gonna hit me and turns the whole thing around and calls me every curse word and ugly name she can conjure up (in front of my daughter once again) It's hard for my inner voice not to tell me this woman is evil...I know that she has gone thru some abuse growing up and we've talked about it, I studied psychology in college so i could learn to help myself and her....she admits that the things she experienced were wrong, but she does those same things to me. She didn't care to raise me or my sister, but now she wants to take my daughter from me emotionally...why do I have to constantly pay? Reading your article I was crying because at least i know I'm not crazy and that there is other people out there going thru similiar experiences. But, the truth is I can't take anymore...I feel like an old woman, I am tired and drained, the only thing that makes me happy is spending time with my daughter and she tries to steal that away from me as well. I keep telling myself that this too shall pass and that God will get me out of the situation safely...it's just hard to keep up the facade that I am forced to just to keep things from exploding with violence. She knows this too and tries to push me. I do wish that God will punish her for all the ugliness she constantly projects and emits. I am deeply Spiritual, I know that this type of thought is not Christlike...but I often wonder because when the second coming happens and the ultimate judgement it is promised that those who committed just such acts will be punished. I pray everyday for Jesus to come back...let it be tomorrow when I wake up...I swear my life is hell...and I have a little angel/princess/gift from heaven to keep me going. Thank you for at least giving me an understanding that I am not alone and that there is hope. God Bless. Any advice is welcome.