It's so encouraging to read these comments from people who have experienced the same problem. I have a sister who has NPD. She is 2 years older than me. Ever since I was a child I knew she was intensely jealous of me, constantly criticise me and try to shame me in front of family members and friends. I didn't realize the extent of her mental condition i.e. NPD when I read about it only a few years ago. I am now 47 years of age and can't believe that she is still trying to make my life hell today. I made the mistake for many years of trying to please her, trying to be the most wonderful kind sister to her I could be but then realized no matter what I did she would constantly berate me and maliciously gossip about me to family members. The weird thing is she desperately wants to be near to me and even suggested living together! I have spent many years travelling, trying to run away from her and keep some distance but still her behavior continues from afar. I have realized I have to cut her completely out of my life and find love and support from friends. Fortunately I have a few family memebers who know me well and support me. I often feel very angry and so overwhelmed with resentment. I know I have to accept the situation - it is as it is. I have met many wonderful, nurturing, beautiful people in the world. I deserve, we all deserve love and respect. Its time for me to spend the rest of my love surrounding myself with these wonderful people. Most of all treat myself with all the love and respect I deserve.