logical thinking?

by Leah

I lack self-confidence because I do dumb things sometimes. I don't reason or think logically and I have poor problem solving skills. How can I deal with or overcome this?

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Date: March 6, 2008
Posted by: Catherine, www.Life-With-Confidence.com

Hi Leah,

Everyone does dumb things sometimes. It's how we learn. Making mistakes can show us that there are better ways of accomplishing tasks.

The important thing is how you react when you make a mistake. Lisa Nichols (she's a motivational speaker) says "They're not mistakes, they're feedback" which I think is a great way to view them. So, every time you make a mistake, you've just learned something incredibly valuable which means that the next time you come across a similar situation, you're going to have a much better idea of how to approach it.

So, forgive yourself for making mistakes. They can be really good things sometimes. I wrote an article on this you can read here

The next part of overcoming this is to listen to how you talk to yourself. It sounds like you're being really quite hard on yourself. Take a look at this article on how to change what you're telling yourself "How Do You Talk To Yourself?"

Sometimes, we're our own worst enemy in that we put ourselves down when really there's no need to. So, pay attention to what you're telling yourself and when you hear those negative thoughts, tell yourself something like, "cancel, cancel, cancel" and replace it with a more encouraging thought. Say what you would say to your best friend, "You're doing great" or "good for you trying this."

Also, as long as you continue to believe that you have poor problem solving skills etc. that's what you'll do. So, you need to start seeing yourself as someone who is good at solving problems. Take this situation for example, you realized that you'd like to improve your skills in a certain area so you started asking "how can I?" questions. That's exactly what someone with good problem solving skills does. They figure out what the issue is and then find the solutions. So, you do have good problem solving skills, you just haven't been giving yourself credit for it.

So, keep asking the "how can I?" questions and you'll find lots of solutions to your questions.

Someone else asked how they could start to build their self confidence, so you might want to read the answer to that one as well. You can read it here.

So, hopefully that's a start for you. Please feel free to ask more questions if you have them. Building your self confidence isn't as hard as you might think it is. You're already doing a great job in starting and you'll find that it just keeps building and building with each little step you take. You're doing great in that awareness is the first step so you're well on your way.

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Dec 27, 2013
by: Anonymous

You may have A.D.D. If you do dumb things consistently and make bad choices I suggest you see a doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist. They are the only ones who can diagnose it and prescribe medication for it. Also doing meditation can help calm your nervous system down. I an a counselor who has A.D.D. And no amount of positive thinking as suggested by others here will change your life alone if you have A.D.D. It is a biological disorder. Good luck.

Mar 03, 2010
Dumb? No, Mistakes, No.
by: Brandy

Everyone has something dumb they do. I loose stuff all the time. I often get told I'm irresponsible because I forget to do a lot of things, like today, I forgot some stuff at the grocery store because I was anxious. Probably because I was upset. When I was in high school, I was so clumsy I would trip over thin air. Even now in class when I bring up issues or my point of view, people often times want to demean me or make me look stupid just because I don't think like them or do things like them. You are a unique person and just because people think you do dumb things or even you think that, doesn't mean that you are. Mistakes only mean learning. They provide an opportunity to grow and develop as a human being. I used to say that getting pregnant twice was a mistake because I wasn't ready and I was nineteen with no job when I had my son and I wasn't prepared for my daughter, but if they are mistakes, I wouldn't take them back for the world because it's because of them that I've been able to grow and mature. I have been in past relationships, that had I been wiser, I wouldn't have had to suffer with my kids through them, but it's those relationships that were horrible help prepare me for the right man. So, just because you do something that may seem akward or have you questioning yourself, doesn't mean your dumb or any of that. Just the fact that you noticed the uncomfortable way it made you feel is important in itself because to analyze one's behavior and life is very, very awesome. The healthiest thing an individual can do is to evaluate behavior, change what you can and accept what you can't. When you do those things, you'll be more comfortable in your own skin.And what's dumb won't seem too dumb. :)

May 25, 2009
Say goodbye to dumb
by: Anonymous


Know this:

The most powerful people in the world do dumb things and do not think logically on serious matters that effect thousands.

Your moment of dumb is not even on the dumbo radar.

When I was young I was unbelieveably clumsy and did and said dumb things too. When I got older I looked back and realised that I didn't enjoy any of the activites I was doing while I was clumsy.

So my advice is to do more things you enjoy - constructive things, not destructive things like partying all night and smoking drugs.

Forget about what your friends, peers or family think of your favorite activity. Do it with all your heart and skill. Your favourite activity will show you the part of you that you admire and want to be more like.

Forget about dumb. Dumb's gone. History. Dumb's no longer required.

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