Women beware of getting involved when you are vulnerable. I was widowed 2 years ago and within 7 months I had a very helpful man recommended to help me with my finances - I have paid a terrible price and I have been left an emotional wreck. He was so charming, showered me with flowers, gifts, even paid for the odd holiday. Very, very slowly he invaded every bit of space I had. It was all a plan.
My family and friends avoided being with me because he was always around. He didn't like the magazines I read, didn't like soap operas. All very innocuous to start with but as time went on he would listen to my answerphone messages, follow me, check up on me, read my mail, emails etc, accused me of having affairs. I was a liar if I didn't repeat things correctly. If I said anything he would use his voice in a way that was either sad or angry etc which made me feel guilty. - I didn't realise it at the time but he was using NLP techniques to control me.
I look out of a window and I'm looking at someone else or I''m bored, I am always in the wrong never him. He appeared to be Mr Wonderful but turned out to be a controlling, manipulative cad.
My hair has fallen out, my self esteem is at an all time low. Don't be taken in like I was.
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