advice when children are involved

I just bought your book and have skimmed through it due to being desparate for resolution but still having to get ready for work. It seems like it is going to help alot! Thank you so much for taking the time to write this!

My children and I are living with a blamer and he blames us all for everything. How can I teach my 8 and 10 year old to stay strong through it? Do you know of any good books when children are being mistreated by blamers?

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Dec 16, 2015
Children living with a blamer
by: Anonymous

Hi, thank you so much for this article. I have been aware of my husband being a "blamer" for more than 2 years now, but still struggle to cope, does not matter what armour you put on, it still hurts and breaks a person down every time you get blamed, or being mistrusted. I've been married for 13 years and at a point where divorce don't really seems likely, due to finances and the kids. We have two beautiful boys, 10 and 12, you mentioned in you post that he will sometimes tread one child differently than the other, and this is definitely the case in my house. The younger child is much more like me and therefor get treated like me. How do I teach my baby to deal with his father without being disrespectful and anger him further. I must always hear from my husband that he doesn't respect him, and off course it is said in a tone of voice suggesting that I am turning our child against him. I don't want either of them, especially the older one, as they are very close to one another, to grow up being like their father, don't understand me wrong, he is a good father, but the negative talk and blaming is definitely effecting them as well. Please give some advise if you have any, I will really appreciate it. I am so tired of putting on a mask everyday for the outside world and even for him, I don't want my kids having to learn to be anything or anyone, but themselves.

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