by Marie

I started to date my coworker, after years of flirting. He told me he was separated from his wife, but they still lived in the same house, different rooms. He had a son, so he didn't want to leave. But, he was so affectionate and loving for 5 months, for me, it was bliss. But, I was also blind... He never wanted to know about me, my family, my hobbies, my friends, nothing... Then his real attitude came out... He wouldn't respond to my texts, and blamed it on the phone. When I wouldn't hear from him, I would bring it up, and he bring up a time where I did not text him back, usually because I was sleeping, but would text him the next morning apologizing for not responding. He then went cold, and we had the talk. He would break dates, fizzle out, become distant, and each time, he blamed it on me that I was the cold, distant and date breaker, he also NEVER apologized for ANYTHING! Every time I would call him on standing me up, he would turn it right back. He kept telling me to get back on my meds...
Then, after 5 months, he got another job. The last day, he was affectionate and told me he loved me. Stupidly, I went back...
Now, he disappears, never texts, so I asked if this was it? No response. I texted him one last time, and he brought up the fact that I didn't text him on Sunday (keep in mind, I texted him every day, but he never responded), and I told him I had a family emergency. He didn't ask, or even care to find out what happened, only that HE WAS NOT TEXTED!
Anywho, after reading this, I now know who he is... a total narcissist! I admit, it will be hard to get completely over him, but in the long run, it was doomed to fail from the beginning!

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May 21, 2015
Decision Making
by: nonymous

I have moved 3000miles away from my province to live with ,which I thought was the man of my dreams,we have only been together 3 months and I am realizing that this man is a complete controller in many ways and treats me like I know nothing and cannot do anything ,I have lived on my own for 28 years and really wanted to spend my senior years sharing with someone than live alone as I had enough of that.I am torn between moving back to where I came from or learn to deal with this. I really would like to move back home but I sold and gave up everything so really have no place to go,as I am on a fixed income and cannot afford much. Please help me.

Aug 25, 2014
Just the Opposite
by: Anonymous

My wife is just the same. She is Asian, and is always complaining about how I do not live up to her expectations. I really do not know what I need to do. I feel like she is trying to take over every aspect of my life. I am unemployed, and have been for some time due to a back problem. When I try to start something, she always puts me down, saying that I am this and that and can't finish anything. It is really getting me down. No matter how hard I try to build myself some positive self esteem, she seems to always tear it down with her blaming and not letting go of faults and the past. I admit I have my problems too. But I just don't know what to do....

Feb 03, 2014
by: Anonymous

I don't know if I want to even get the book, and do all the extra work to understand someone. It's like dealing with an illness or something. My husband is a BIG BLAMER!! I tried to commit suicide once because I couldn't live up to his expectations. Now I know that my life is important to God. And even now after 10 years, I'm getting tired of going on a roller coaster with him. His mother said that him and his whole family are like that. His mother included. I don't know what to do. I understand that he can't be that way with me unless I let him. This is my husband. You would think loving, honoring, admiring, and respecting and sex all the time would make any husband happy. Not mine. And it's hurts me deeply. Like he said you develop survival skills, remembering the good time, and forgetting the bad times, because you think that this is what most couples go through. But they don't. I wish I would have never married. My mom is a blamer and told me for many years that I can't do nothing right, then I married the same deal. This has been going on my whole life. And I want it to end. Pray for me.

Oct 01, 2012
Same problem!
by: Raquel

OH WOW, your story is VERY close to mine! How awful to be duped in such a painful way. I'm 6 weeks with NO CONTACT and I'm feeling better but I still miss what was... But I just keep reminding me that it was all phony. So painful it makes me sick.

Sep 22, 2012
So true
by: Anonymous

I am just so happy you got out . All you said I can identify with! I could not say what I go through because it's just to much. You have done the right thing to leave. X

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