Why Do Good Things Happen to Negative People?
by Catherine Pratt
I used to work with a lady who the words, “unhappy” and “negative” would describe perfectly. It also affected everyone she worked with. Her sudden mood swings would instantly put everyone on edge, she would constantly verbally hurt other people and she would cause trouble between co-workers just for the sake of causing trouble. Yet, I’d watch as one wonderful thing after another would happen to her. She got engaged, she bought a new house, she got a nice car and she even got a super cute, little puppy.
During this time, I’d been reading a lot of positive thinking books. I was thinking every positive thought I could but I wasn’t getting any of the wonderful things that were happening to this lady. In fact, I’d just broken up with my boyfriend after 3.5 years. I found it very frustrating and I didn’t understand it. Did it mean that the books were wrong? How could all these wonderful things happen to her and not me? I just didn’t get it. I wanted to know why do good things happen to negative people?
Looking back at the experience, I think it all comes down to the following:
• Deserving Good Things
Before this, I thought maybe I didn’t deserve good things to happen to me. How many times had I been told that as a child? I also thought that being born under unlucky stars brought me only bad luck and I knew that good things happened to other people and not me. Truth is, just like you, I do deserve good things to happen to me. There are no unlucky stars or curses. I needed to eliminate that old, out of date thinking. You deserve good things to happen to you. Once you fully incorporate this into your mindset, things will change.
• Be Clear About What You Want and Focus
At the time, dealing with my recent breakup occupied most of my thoughts as well. I wanted to know why it had gone wrong, why didn’t relationships ever work for me, could I have done things differently, was I going to be alone forever now? The common thoughts we all go through after a break up. I couldn’t focus on what I wanted or where I wanted to go in the future. Once I did, things finally started to change for me. As long as I remained focused on the past, I couldn’t move forwards. Ask yourself, what events from the past are you focusing on? It’s time to let them go and move on.
There were two more valuable lessons I learnt from asking myself why good things happen to negative people:
You see the same thing happening all the time with famous rock stars and actors. They earn a lot of money yet if you believe the tabloid stories about them, many of them are just as unhappy and negative as my co-worker. As Charles Burke explains in his report, Inner-Power Emails being able to earn huge amounts of money,
“doesn’t mean anything about their ability to get happiness, loving relationships or peace of mind. Each of those is a separate matter that has to be dealt with on its own. Success is a narrow-spectrum thing. Very specific. We can have great success in one area of our life and still be totally messed up in other areas.”
If you don’t appreciate the good things that do come to you and be grateful for them, you will never be able to achieve true happiness.
The final gift I received from this experience was the realization that each one of us has our own special and unique path. What makes someone else happy may not make us happy. We need to concentrate on where we want to go with our own life. Focus on what we want to explore, experience, and achieve in our life time. We can only live our own life, not someone else’s. You are wasting your own precious life if you spend it wishing you had what someone else has.
I found it frustrating working with this lady but I learnt so much. It’s truly amazing what you can learn from even the negative people you will encounter throughout your life. Although, I still think it’d be better if the world worked so that if you were a mean, nasty person only bad things would happen to you. That would be too easy though. Good things will continue to happen to negative people. The key is that we can all get good things to happen in our lives. It’s just a matter of knowing what we want, expecting those things and understanding that we deserve those things. Also, appreciate and be grateful for all the wonderful gifts you receive every day. That is the one big difference between the negative person having good things happen to them and the positive person receiving good things. The positive people are able to achieve true happiness and inner peace while the negative will forever flounder never finding that one thing they think will make them happy.
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