by Catherine Pratt
As soon as you notice that you’re feeling bad which includes feeling angry, sad, frustrated etc, ask yourself
“What am I focusing on right now?”
Most likely you’ll discover that all you're thinking about is what you don’t want. When you get caught in a negative thinking groove of only seeing what you don’t want, you get trapped in the situation as a victim and you’ll keep attracting more of the same thing into your life. You won't be able to move forward until you change your thoughts.
So, if you want to instantly stop feeling bad so that you can move forwards and also just to feel good again then try one of the following suggestions:
As soon as you realize you’re focusing on what you don’t want, turn it around by asking yourself, As soon as you do this, you won’t feel as bad. You've gotten yourself out of the negative rut and you've started focusing on what you do want. You’ve changed your whole point of view with just one subtle change.
Sometimes, you need to think through things a little more than
simply the opposite. Here’s an example. You catch yourself thinking, “I
hate my job” so you change it around to be “I want a new job”. You
will need to consider things like:
By determining what it is you want, then you can start to focus on how you’re going to get what you want. You’ve moved from a passive role to one of action.
Write Down The Benefits Here’s something else you can do to turn it around. Write down all the benefits of going through this situation. Whether it’s that you’re learning more about yourself and your needs or that it’s making you stand on your own two feet or that you gained a valuable skill. Take the time to consider all the benefits of this thing that you don’t want. You may at first think, there’s nothing but keep thinking. There should be quite a few things you can write down. No matter how small it is, write it down. You’ll be amazed at how quickly this will change your feelings.
When Bill Harris, President of Centerpointe Research (known for their Holosync Meditation CD's), was first starting his business, someone threatened to sue him for a million dollars. He was able to come up with 67 benefits of this lawsuit. He says that by doing this it gave him the motivation to create a company that was worth being sued for a million dollars. So, the value of doing this exercise might just turn out to be far more valuable than you initially think.
The key point of this exercise is that it is impossible to feel bad when you’re feeling appreciation and gratitude.
These two steps are meant to allow you to become detached from the original “feeling bad” emotion. You can now look at the situation in a much more calm and effective way and not have your decisions clouded by emotions. Remember that your thoughts and your emotions are really the only thing that you always have complete control over. Anyway, try these two steps the next time you're feeling bad. You'll be amazed at what an easy and effective way this is to instantly change your mood to one of feeling good.
Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times.
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