But how can I 'BE SURE' its really not me?

by Akelly
(Nevada)

My husband constantly tells me that i always make such a big deal out of him not telling me the WHOLE TRUTH. Past experiences with him and pretty much everyone my entire life have left me very untrusting and careful to listen to what is said. But he continuosly tells me that what i remember is wrong, blames me for his actions saying that he knew how i would react. That alone upsets me for him to predict my reaction. And being told only part of a situation or conversation with someone else for me to learn the entirety of it later, definitely has no aid in building trust. But sometimes he does make me think that that because ive NEVER BEEN ABLE to trust anyone that this is an issue which i need to deal with and that he's not lying. But he has lied to me or not told me the whole truth and even lied to other people concerning things or about things that well just blow my mind.So i think if he will lie to me over little things then im sure he would over something really series. So how do i know if its me or him?

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Oct 24, 2012
It's Him!!!!
by: LeeM

I've been through years of this. It's him, not you. It's taken me years to figure out I'm just not that stupid. He's a master-manipulator. Mine swears he didn't say things and if there are witnesses to it, swears they misunderstood and he didn't mean what we thought he meant. He says ugly things and then tells people I said it, not him. I could go on and on.

Believe me, its him.

Mar 14, 2013
Emotional wreck
by: Anonymous

Oh my I am just gob smacked. So many years why did I not pick up on it sooner, I too am questioning my self with IS IT me. I have just made app with GP for a referral. I am in desperate need of someone to talk too and for some reassurance. Feeling absolutely awful.

Sep 03, 2013
20 years of this
by: Anonymous

I haVe gotten to the point that I want to run away. He blames me for his bad luck, loss of a job, his mom, my mom, he calls me an isolationist???? That I have cut everyone out but I haven't. He reminds me how my siblings treat me which is normal sibling behavior. He tells my oldest son that some day he will see how I really am and then thank him for trying to help him when I didn't know what I was doing. It's time for me to leave finally!

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