by Catherine Pratt
The majority of people are going around and around in a circle while they “wait”. What are they waiting for? They're waiting for that day when life will just suddenly happen. They may not even be really sure what that sudden strike of lightning will contain but they feel that they’ll know it when they see it. They’re going to see what life offers and maybe they’ll take the opportunity when it arrives, maybe they won’t. They’ll just wait and see what happens. They continue to go round and around in the same circle, day in, day out. Just waiting for something. Never really getting anywhere. Day after day passes and soon year after year has passed and they’re still “waiting”.
There is so much more to life than this and you deserve so much more. And you can make it all happen just by making the decision to take control of your life. Do it today. Decide that right this second things are going to change. You don’t have any more time to waste and you can take control of your life just by changing your thoughts.
So, let’s take a look at how to do this:
What’s Holding You Back?
First of all, the number one reason people don’t take control of their lives is due to fear. Fear of having dreams, fear of following their dreams, fear of achieving their dreams. Fear stops them dead in their tracks. They would rather stay safely within their comfort zones rather than risk the possibility of failing. They may not even fully realize that they have this fear. They’ll just know that they aren’t really moving forward in their life.
Most people do have a “dream job” or something they’ve always wanted to do but end up talking themselves out of it because “I can’t do that” or “that’s just crazy”. It’s one of the greatest tragedies that the world will never see these people’s true talents.
If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to be doing, it will just kill you inside when you see other people who are. They have managed to work through the fear and you are still stuck behind the starting line. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Face the Fear
What was the scariest thing you’ve done? Remember buying your first car? Your first kiss? Pretty scary but you probably accepted the challenge and just went ahead and did it anyway. I bet as soon as you’d done it, you realized it had been no big deal and that you’d probably wasted a lot of time worrying for nothing. But once you’d done it once you knew you could do it and were now ready to accomplish something else. This is exactly the fear you’ll be facing by deciding to take control of your life. It seems scary and overwhelming at first but as soon as you even take the littlest of steps towards facing the fear, you’ll suddenly know it’s no big deal and you can do it.
If you’re just waiting for life to happen and waiting to see what life offers you, how is life going to know what to offer you when you don’t even know what you want? You need to take control of your life and decide what you want. Once you do, then you’re well on your way to achieving your goals.
What is your deepest, darkest, secret desire? That one thing that you really want to do with your life? Doesn’t matter if people say that’s a dumb idea or you’ll never be able to make a living doing it? What is it? Now, start to break it down into pieces or little steps. What can you do to start moving towards your desire. For example, do you want a house? Then start saving money for that down payment. Go through hundreds of Open Houses and figure out what would make the perfect house for you, find out about mortgages, find out about the taxes in different areas of your city. Do something towards your goal every day and keep moving forwards until that glorious day when the universe will deliver to you your absolute dream house. But, it won’t happen unless you know first what that perfect house would be. What would it look like, what would it have in it, how big would the yard be? What does it absolutely have to have? You also have to truly believe in it. Thinking “ah yes, someday, I’ll have my own house” is not good enough. You have to truly believe you are going to be getting your own house. This is what you’re working towards and yes, you are going to get it. There is no doubt about it and it is not going to be “someday”. You may not know exactly when it is going to happen but it is definitely going to happen.
Where do you start?
Start brainstorming. What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to have? Dream big. Anything and everything. Write down a list. Don't edit it with thoughts of, "I could never do that" or "that's silly". Put everything down on the list.
You Can Start Out Small
Not sure what your big desire is? Some of us have suppressed our true desires so much that we’re not sure what they are anymore. Start smaller then. Once you start to achieve some of your smaller goals you’ll gain the confidence to face even bigger ones.
What would you like to have? A car, kids, marriage, a dog? Even by just considering the smaller things in life will start to get you in the mindset of considering what you want out of life. You’ll also start to see that as soon as you figure out what you want then you start to get what you want from life.
Keep it Positive
Start thinking about those things and focus on those positive thoughts. Ignore all the negative “noise” that will appear. Say you want a dog. People will probably tell you that it will be expensive, you don’t have time to take care of one, what will you do when you go away? Ignore these people and their thoughts. Focus on the goal. A dog. Once you keep your focus on the main positive item, all the noise instantly disappears because it’s not important. The dog is important and as long as you have enough love and the willingness to do whatever is needed to take care of your puppy, you can do it.
Once you have made the decision to step up to the plate and accept this challenge then you will just naturally do whatever needs to be done. You can achieve your goals simply by focusing on the big picture and only on the positive aspects of your journey towards it.
One thing to pay attention to is the reason why you want to achieve the goal. If you're doing it because you "should" or because you think people will think more highly of you then go back to your dream list. Find the dream that makes you excited just for the idea of it. Not for what you think you will gain from achieving that dream. For example, you don't want to get a dog because you think it will prevent you from being lonely. You need to get the dog because you love dogs and think you'll love the experience of having a dog.
Do you want to get married?
But you're stuck in the trap of thinking, “Perhaps, I will meet someone and perhaps I won’t. I am ok if it happens or if it doesn’t that’s fine too. Until I meet that special person I will just continue doing the activities that I enjoy and make the best of what life has to offer.” This is being passive and you’re waiting. Instead get that thought in your head. Believe in it, want it. You don’t need to marry the first person that crosses your path, you just need to get yourself in that mindset and be prepared for when it happens. As soon as you change your mindset you’ll be amazed by how fast the person who also has the same mindset as you will suddenly appear.
Feel the Joy
You’ll be amazed at what a difference it will make in your life simply by changing your thoughts. You’ll be blown away by how much energy you suddenly have and how much joy you suddenly have for life. You’ll suddenly be having the best time of your life simply because you have made the decision to “live” life instead of “waiting” for life.
You may also find that all the negative, waiting people in your life suddenly start to disappear. New, positive energy people will appear to replace them. New opportunities that you never imagined will suddenly be appearing at your door. You’re ready to go!
Ready, Set, Go!
So, what are you waiting for? Change that attitude. Start working towards your new positive life. Go get it. It’s yours, it’s waiting for you to make the first move. Take that first step and you’ll never look back. Everything you’ve ever wanted can be yours and all you have to do is change your thoughts and Take Control.