We're all required to deal with disappointments in our life
Whether it’s that you didn’t get the job promotion you wanted or that someone didn’t come through for you. Every single one of us faces challenges at various times. How you deal with these disappointments is what will determine whether you’re a confident person in control of your life or simply a victim.
So, the next time you face a disappointment, pay attention to how you react.
Do you get mad?
Do you blame yourself or put yourself down, “I’m not good enough for a promotion”?
These kinds of reactions will only make the situation worse for yourself. You’re stuck feeling sorry for yourself and you have no way to move forwards.
Instead, take a step back from the original issue and remind yourself, “What do I really want?”
For example, if you didn’t get the promotion you applied for, did you want the new job for:
- the new challenges
- the increased pay
- or just to get you away from your current co-workers?
Once you know this, then you can ask, “What’s the solution to this?”
If you really want new challenges, then you can start looking for another job somewhere else. Not getting this particular job won’t seem so bad. It might not have provided the challenges you really wanted anyway. You still have lots of other options on how to get those challenges you crave.
You may also learn that perhaps you didn’t get the job because you didn’t have all the necessary qualifications. A possible solution might be to take courses or ask for more training in this area. By doing this, you instantly have a direction in which to head. You can move forwards with your life instead of remaining stuck and feeling horrible.
The one other thing to ask yourself is did you apply for the job simply because it was available? It’s easy to get caught up in reacting to events when they appear. It’s important to be able to judge opportunities as to whether they will lead you in the direction you really want to go or if they’re interesting but ultimately a distraction.
Disappointments aren’t meant to hurt you or keep you down
They’re meant to help you grow and to remind you of your priorities. Sometimes, it can even stop you from going down the wrong path because you take the time to remind yourself of where your priorities really lie.
The initial disappointment may actually turn out to be a gift which saves you from much greater grief when you realize it wouldn’t have been a good thing. Or you end up getting something much better.
I remember not getting the very first house that I put down an Offer to Purchase. I was hugely disappointed. A few months later I discovered that buying that house would have been a huge, financial disaster. But, I had no way of knowing that at the time. Yet, looking back, I am so, so glad I didn’t get that first house. It was worth going through the initial disappointment in order to get something that was much better later.
I’m sure you can think of lots of examples in your own life when an initial disappointment has turned out to be a good thing.
The real key is to pay attention to your reaction to the event
What are you concentrating on; the disappointment or figuring out a solution to the problem? This may seem like a really simple thing but by doing this you’ll see a huge difference in your confidence levels. You’ll also have an increased sense of satisfaction with your life. And, the real beauty of this is it’s entirely your choice as to what you choose to focus on.
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Check out my latest Send A Positive Thought – Dealing With Disappointments
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If you’d like to go into much more detail with the concepts I discuss on my web site, I have 3 books available for you:
3 Questions That Will Change Your Life
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Wow, long email from me today. Hope I’ve given you lots to think about though. And, as always, I’d love to hear from you if you have any questions or comments or just want to say “Hello!”. You can respond to this email or use my Contact Form.
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