you know you are right. I stop talking to her recently. But it is so difficult.and I am unemployed and divorced and have chronic headaches. I love her right. But can not manage my life yet. Thought she is not help. something frightens me I need to decide my own my life. now when it is time to be grown up I do not know I got scared. I lost my father last year. So it scares me. I continue like that I see what happens.