relationship with my sister in law
This is my second article I am writing on your site which I really like.
Where to start?
I am married for 5 years now. My husband is not
From England just like me. His sister came to
England and stayed with us for one year as she
started studying. First everything went well but
I realised she didn’t take things for granted. I came To England and had to build up my life from scratch and when she came everything was already set up so was easier.
Any way after one year our relationship became worse and she moved to a student accommodation.
After she moved out things calmed down a bit which
I started having arguments with my husband
because of the tension in the house already too.
Now she living on her own for two years and has
a big circle of friends (all from the same country
she is from). I tried to make friends with her
again and asked her to go shopping on my days off
or to the cinema. Never less, our relationship never really recovered completely as we never
really talked about our issues which I usually do
in my family. She thinks I am jellies of her because she has more friends than I do.
My husband still sees her as he won’t ignore her
just because of our issues. At the moment we
pretend nothing has happened but as we have some
of the same friends I still see her which brings everything back to me and I get confused not always sometimes I am strong and it won’t effect me but sometimes it does.
Just recently I wanted to visit her and after a few text messages she admitted she did not know who I am which made it clear for me that she deleted my number. If I would have told my husband this, she would make excuses again such as oh she lost all her numbers etc. and he would believe it so I stopped telling him.
Since then I never contacted her again. I stopped talking about this issue with my husband as he is between two chairs and usually thinks she is right as she might excuse situations better than me or he thinks I am over reacting which you do in such an unclear “relationship”. Each party interprets things harder than they are.
She lives in the same town like us so I still see her but at the moment I wish I could just get on with life and don’t need to see her as this does not come to any conclusion.
I don’t know what she is up to and she does not know what I am up too or at least I don’t ask my husband which she might but I don’t know.
What do you suggest me doing?