MY HUSBAND IS A BLAMER! IM LEAVING HIM, ASAP!

by CHANNELLE
(CINTI,OHIO)

I WANTED TO CRY READING THIS, NOT ONLY IS HE A BLAMER, BUT HE IS A FEW OTHER THINGS ALSO. He blames me for everything,he woke up late and lost one of his jobs,who was to blame, ME! He chipped his tooth hollering at me, and he says " You see what u made me do". ITS CRAZY. I dont even go places with him anymore, afraid that if something goes wrong, i will be blamed. If the tire goes flat, he will say, you caused this mess. He never admits when he is wrong, and never apologises for nothing. I thought that it was because he is African and im African-American, but i dont think that matters. This is EMOTIONAL ABUSE to the fullest. Sorry but i dont need the book, because i am ending this marriage, he is also selfish self-centered and egotistical. The worse thing about him is, he puts on this fake face to people, as if he is this kind sweet person, and no one will ever believe he treats me this way. He is also a Hypocritical-Saint, Loves Church. But as soon as he leaves out those doors, the evil devil comes out to play. I dont like this man and i am leaving him, PERIOD.Life is too short to be dealing with people like this.

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MY HUSBAND IS A BLAMER! IM LEAVING HIM, ASAP!

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Dec 30, 2011
 I Understand
by: Bobbi Jo

This article has helpled my tremondously, thank you.I understand! I am living with someone that I have a 2 year old son with and this man has worn me out emotionally, you can never win! I too have chosen not to deal with this any longer. He will not work, does nothing to contribute to his son financially, refuses to help with house cleaning. He babysits and makes my life a living hell! Why would we want to understand and change to allow them to continue to treat other human beings in this manner? Shouldn't they be the ones seeking help to learn to deal with their problem. I am fed up with changing myself to understand and going through life as if I were in hell due to his problems. It will never change! OK so I read the book and understand how it all works, that only means that I learn to live with it and survive it, never being truly happy or free from the abuse.
May 07, 2012
 My Husband is a blamer through and through...
by: Sharon Australia

I was as my wits end with him...I was drinking more and smoking more letting my daughter down day by day...just to drown out his negative words and constant blame,even if I did nothing wrong he would just verbally attack me.Was walking on egg shells.I went through the guilt went through the how can I be any better to stop the verbal abuse on me and my daughter,I just did not understand this man or what planet he was on Around my mother he was a different person at one stage he did talk to her told her a heap of lies about me and she believed everyone of them..was the worst time for me I had nobody he had sucked her in with his lies also..lying is nothing to him..the behaviour he displays and the discusting things he calls me doesnt admit to any of it then has the gall to say I did and said those things..stomps his feet slams doors and locks him self in his room and gives me the silent treatment for days on end..that was then.

Now that I have read your book OMG talk about give my self a kick in the pants.I have stopped drinking and smoking I am excersising everyday looking after my health and letting everything that he says degrading to me for no reason just falls off me.I just look at him as a very odd human that has no Idea.I feel so much more impowered by not giving a reaction and now have taught my daughter to do the same and guess what hes not liking it at all for hes getting no reaction from us at all nothing...and hes not happy.He still blames me for everything funny that I just larf now for it is just so silly to hear him accuses me of this,when I use to get really upset and get angry and try and defend my self.I feel I am now in control of my choices and my own self power and he will never have it again..and I will never be a victim again.

Under all his crap behaviours ,I occasionally see a nice man but with in 10 mins his mouth kills it...He just cant contol it.I have found when my daughter and my self are happy he cant stand it ...when we are having fun around the house hes hurling abuse we just larf more because it just sounds so ridiculous.
He knows I am changing and not reacting anymore still confused and I think I will forever be for this type of human I will never understand what he gets out of what he does to the people he is suppose to love.but I guess karma and the universe finds us all one day to teach us a lesson ..his is yet to come.
I do thank him coming into my life for teaching me how to be much stronger have a good look at my self and stay calm at all times,its much quieter at home and much better for my daughter not to hear his abuse as much for I dont react anymore at all.
Thank you again its like you wrote this book about my husband word for word like you were writing about my life...I have gone over it twice and also wrote it in my words what you said so it will stick in my head at all times and your words you wrote will imprint in my head.
Thank you you woke me up and I found me again...

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