Is There HOPE When The Blamer Is Your Spouse?

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Is There HOPE When The Blamer Is Your Spouse?

(Ontario, Canada)

This sounds like my mate....who continually blames me for everything that goes wrong....he also has negative comments about everything and everything everybody else is doing WRONG in this world....he never says he is sorry even when I make him realize I was not at fault.

We were teenage sweethearts....first loves....were engaged....broke up and married different people. His wife died a few years ago and since I never got him out of my heart.

The long and short...we live together now....so he is like my SPOUSE.....I divorced 30 years ago and was never with anybody else since....til this man.

Is there any hope for us? y brain tells me to do so....my heart does not want to walk away....so I am willing to try to understand this personality type and see if there are changes I can make to help this relationship. There is a really wonderful side to this man....it is just the blame thing!!!

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Mar 03, 2011

Dear Is there hope
by: Anonymous

I understand because I am in similar situation. But you must realize, it's NOT just a blame thing. It's the verbal abuse, put downs, emotional abuse, feelings of worthlessness and everything else that goes with it (just to mention a few).

Apr 05, 2011

a little insight
by: Anonymous

I was a blamer in the end of my relationship with my gf when she left it was a huge wake up call for me. I sought out help for my own depression and learned better ways to cope with situations. The key is that he has to chose to change you are powerless in the situation. I hope all turns out well

Aug 30, 2011

blamer
by: tyke

I am married to a blamer -yes- he loves himself - and blames everybody and me if something goes wrong.
Never being sorry or being accountable.
I am a strong person with a very good background - so I do stand up to him and call a spade a spade. He will try to put me down but it doesn't work, as I will turn the table on him and show him where HE is wrong - he hates it - but he will get over it in a short time.
There must be compliment after each blame in order to stay in a relationship....watch & wait for it - it must come.!!!.

Oct 10, 2011

I HOPE SO
by: Anonymous

My husband is a blamer. I feel bad about it because he seems so unhappy.
We've been married nearly 21 years. I have blown up at him a few times and I can honestly say he has tried to do better especially with his temper but it always comes back.
It's encourgaing to know it's not me. I am pretty self confident and this article has helped me. I just hope I can keep my emotions out of it. He does have a good side and I know he loves me but I believe he does have have a problem whether it is emotional, mental or physical. I have told him before that he was deceptive because I never saw this side of him while we were dating. He has said many times there is nothing wrong with him

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