IS THERE ANY SOLUTION TO CHANGE NEGATIVE PERSON TO POSITIVE ?

by Thomas
(India)

The content referred above is absolutely true situations. A Blamer continuously, allegates and abuses only a particular person in a family, Why ?. If one of the family member is a Blamer or Negative Person and the other has to live with him, then is there any solution to make him feel that he is behaving abnormally and that he should change to a positive person. I understand that a negative person do not agree that he is behaving abnormally and will ultimately again put the blame on the person who is pin-pointing him. So in that case how to change a negative person to a positive person. A Boss who is negative can be neglected in the office but it is not so with a family partner as the entire family should live in peace. May the Author himself reply to this. Thanks.

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IS THERE ANY SOLUTION TO CHANGE NEGATIVE PERSON TO POSITIVE ?

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Jul 17, 2012
 living with blamer for years
by: Anonymous

I hear what you are saying! I have been living with a blamer in my family for years-my husband! Everytime something went wrong I was blamed for it and reminded down the years how it was due to me how certain events happened or " what did you do". Example- we have three wonderful children all adults now - 1 graduated and another in the process- well the middle one took a turn in the opposite direction towards drugs and alcohol. Due to years of struggling and trying to help her I am mentally exhausted hearing from him how it was my fault not giving her $$ or doing the right thing (enabling her enough). It's amazing how the good things are forgotten so quickly too! The help we did try to emcompass she decided not to accept (most of time I took her for help)and whatever $$ she received she spent the wrong way or complained it wasn't enough- and then became hostile if you would ask her where the othere $$ was spent. Not Good! Today, (even though she states she is no longer on drugs and my husbands tests her once in a blue moon) I tend to be hesistant. Her drinking habits have not stopped either (I have seen her drink and told her to stop- won't listen) and I feel like giving up because everytime she calls him for $$ he gives in (even though he states to me he will not give her anymore). After many years of struggling this battle of my daughter ruining our marriage I have sought councling.

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