I must be a slow learner
My "friend" who I will call Kim acts as if she wants to be my friend but in the end she has time for everyone/thing but me. We will make tentative plans to do something (our kids are friends) and then she will bag out because of other plans she's made. It's impossible to reach her by phone - home or cell to see if she really is available.
I really do like her and her husband and they appear to like us too but when push comes to shove we apparently rate right after cleaning the sock drawer. Why do I feel the need to make this work? Possibly because our sons (age 11) are in contact with each other. That continues the contact with us. I second guess myself and when I talk to her I get sucked back in. Of course there are feelings of "what is wrong with me" since she appears to have many other friends. This is ridiculous and probably a raging case of PMS and flashbacks to high school. We are 40 year old women and I should feel confident enough to say it's her loss. I don't want people to have this kind of power over me.
Ironically enough her son who is one of the three musketeers with my son is excluding my son and gravitating toward the other boy with invitations to play and to go off with their family. I guess he is learning from the master........
Feeling strung along is one thing for me but it's going to get messy if you start this with my son........