'he' vs. 'they' of 'a narcissistic blamer'

by Ty

My only concern is that this article seems to pick out 'he' instead of saying he/she or 'the blamer' ... I just got out of a relationship with a female blamer.

Good article though. Thanks

Note from Catherine
Hi Ty,
I totally appreciate what you're saying. Blamers can definitely be male or female and I wasn't trying to pick out one gender over the other. Originally, I used "they" throughout but then I had a number of people complain about that. If I put "he/she" every time it makes it awkward and so much harder to read (I tried). So, this quirk of the English language is tricky. I was just trying to be consistent in my pronoun throughout the article. So, I haven't figured out the perfect solution yet but I do want you to know that I'm not trying to put the blame on males more than the females. Gender isn't a factor with this type of personality.

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'he' vs. 'they' of 'a narcissistic blamer'

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Sep 13, 2010
 female blamer
by: nd

yes, im dealing with a female blamer (my significant other of 3 yeras) but just because you used "he" never once did i not get the message.
thank you for such a helpful and telling article. i will be getting this book...i only hope it is not too late for our relationship.
im kind of tired of things like even being blamed for her accidentally bumping me in the middle of the night. chocked up to i should've laid differently, etc..

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