Comparing myself to his exes....
I have read so many articles and I haven't found any clear answers on what to do or how to resolve the issue. I feel as though something is wrong with me and I don't know how to fix it.
I have been dating my current boyfriend for quite some time now. I am so incredibly happy with him and I love him with all of my heart. And I know that he loves me too. We've discussed marriage and having children together. Everything seems perfect. Until I begin comparing myself to his exes or other women.
I know that I am not ugly but I am not the most beautiful person in the entire world. I know that I am talented and that when I love someone - I love with all that I am. I know that there is a lot that I have to offer a man and that's why it has taken me quite sometime to settle down with someone. So I don't know if this issue is about insecurity. I do feel as though I am never going to be good enough and he is going to wake up one day and realize that.
He and his ex-wife were able to travel to so many different places. She made over $60,000 a month. She cheated on him and she was the only one who didn't want it to work out. He did EVERYTHING he could to make it work and still she left. So after 15 years, they divorced. Then came the next girl who he got engaged to after only 4 or 6 months. And that girl broke his heart too. He made it a point to tell me that while he could never satisfy his ex-wife in bed, he could his ex-fiance. Needless to say, he is extremely sexual.
So the issue comes when I think "I don't make that kind of money. Is he going to be happy not doing those kind of things?" or "Ex-finace rocked his world in bed and I can't satisfy him sexually like she did." or when he tells me how his ex-finace played golf with him, they went on quite a few trips, she was a marathon runner, and she is really petite. At that point I start looking at myself and realize that I don't do any of that and while I'm very petite myself, there are several other things wrong with my body.
My question is WHY am I comparing myself to these other women like this? Why do I get this jealous feeling of his exes when he talks about them? What can I do to get over these issues? I don't want this to destroy our relationship and I need advice.