cheating and insecure

by chippen
(london)

Hi there,

I just started a relationship with a girl I've been seeing for a few months, she's lovely and things are going well, but I can feel my questioning and anger, and insecurities kicking in. I was like this in previous relationships. Who is she texting, if she's out to lunch in work hours with a male co worker i feel myself getting the knot in the stomach. It's such a powerful reaction that I get. I find it hard to think any other way, where does it stem from? I often think how great it would be if I was like others that don't get like this, like its all a breeze for them, life etc. I wonder how many good things I've messed up in the past because of this way of thinking.