As If! Confidence
by Catherine Pratt
The following article is an excerpt from my book, "3 Questions That Will Change Your Life". Be sure to pick up a copy. It's an easy way to make dramatic, positive changes in your life.
"3 Questions That Will Change Your Life"
Everyone wants a “button” they can just press and magically change their life.
So, finally, here’s an “As If!” Confidence Button you can mentally press whenever you need a boost of confidence.
It’s a super fun technique to change negative beliefs and thoughts to be positive ones.
By changing your thoughts, you can finally get what you really want from life.
Learn to Pay Attention to Your Thoughts
The first step is awareness. You need to start listening to what you say. You need to really hear what you're telling yourself. Are your thoughts complaints, criticisms, or just a plain negative attitude? What are your thoughts saying?
You have a choice about what you believe but you can’t make the decision until you’re aware of what you’re telling yourself.
1. As If!
Remember when you were a kid and one of your friends would brag about some really great thing they’d accomplished and of course you didn’t believe them? You just knew they were telling a whopper of a lie. So, what did you say?
You probably said something like, “As if” as in “As if that’s true” letting them know that you didn’t buy it, no, not for one second. And then your friend would say “Uh huh, it’s true.” And you’d get into a fun fight about it.
Well, this time, you’re going to get into a fun fight with your thoughts. So, whenever you catch yourself saying your old belief say, “As If!” as in “As if that’s true!”
Remind yourself what a whopper of a lie you’re telling yourself. Now, believe your positive thoughts.
Have fun with this. Say it out loud, "As If!". Whenever you say something like:
- "I'm so stupid" As If! I'm a very intelligent person.
- "I'm useless" As If! I'm valuable in so many different ways.
- "I can't do this" As If! Of course I can do this.
Believe only your new powerful, positive thoughts.
2. As If! They Don't Exist Anymore
As you are the only one in control of your thoughts, you need to take responsibility for what you are thinking.
You need to be accountable to yourself and only choose those thoughts which will help you.
Negative thoughts only drag you down.
Decide on what good things you want. Remember this is "want" not "don't want". So, if you're thinking things like:
- "I don't want to be fat." Turn it around to be "I'm thin and healthy".
- "I don't want to be poor." Turn it around to be "I'm financially independent".
- "I don't want to be alone." Turn it around to be "I'm so grateful to be sharing my life with a wonderful partner".
Next is to imagine what your life would be like if you couldn’t think your previous negative thoughts.
How different would your life be?
How would you feel?
What would you think?
How would you behave?
What freedom you give yourself when you let the negative thoughts go. Now, it’s “as if” they never existed.
3. It’s “As If” You Are the Person You Want to Be
When you are facing a negative thought, ask yourself “what would a person who is …. (fill in your desired feeling here, whether it’s confident, or lovable, or independent) do in this situation?
Think what that person would say, what would they do, and how would they behave? Now, you’re going to act “as if” you are that type of person.
It might feel strange when you first try this out but keep doing it. Pretend you’re an actor and you’re trying to “be” that person. You’re acting as if you are already that person.
Soon, you’ll find that you’re behaving in your new desired role and you won’t have to keep asking yourself what would they do because you are one so you know what they would do.
Only choose behaviors that celebrate the good in a person you want to be like. Admiring someone because they're ruthless is not the way to go.
It’s very important that you’re not copying the person. You’re being the type of person with that mindset but with your own unique style.
4. Imagine It “As If” It’s True
In your mind’s eye, see what your new life will be like, feel it, hear it, taste it (if you can) and soon you will be living it.
Print Out Your As If! Confidence Button
Print out the pocket sized version. You'll need to print it out double sided, cut out the “As If!” Confidence Button and then fold it in half.
That's all you have to do. Now, you’ll be able to carry it in your pocket or purse to use whenever you need that little burst of confidence.
As a bonus, on the inside (after it's folded), you'll find two inspiring quotes.
It’s a reminder that YOU are the one in control of your thoughts, no one else.
Choosing negative thoughts is a luxury you can no longer afford.
Click on the image or this link:
As If! Confidence Pocket Sized Version
As If! Confidence Summary
What are you waiting for?
Use the “As If!” Confidence Button and you’ll soon be living the life of your dreams.
You can do it!
Print it out NOW!
As If! Confidence Pocket Sized Version
Enjoy and have fun with it. Life will suddenly be more exciting than you ever imagined.
For more information on how to increase your confidence, be sure to read "3 Questions That Will Change Your Life". 50 pages. Format: pdf file
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